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There is a sentence I keep returning to when I think about Applied Behaviour Analysis (ABA):

You cannot build liberation out of a framework that was never designed to value your existence.

ABA is often marketed today with softer language than in decades past. You will hear phrases like child-led, play-based, neuroaffirming, compassionate, and modern ABA. These descriptors suggest evolution, growth, even moral progress.

However, beneath the rebranding, the foundational logic remains largely unchanged.

ABA is a system built on the idea that certain ways of moving, communicating, expressing emotion, focusing attention, and relating to the world are inherently more desirable than others. Those “desirable” ways overwhelmingly align with neuronormative norms. Autistic ways of being are, at best, tolerated if they do not interfere with those norms. At worst, they are targeted for reduction and elimination.

That is why ABA can never be neuroaffirming. Not because individual practitioners are often cruel, many times without even realising it. Not because every session looks the same. Not because no child ever appears to “benefit” in some way.

Because the philosophical spine of ABA is incompatible with neurodivergent dignity.

Neuroaffirmation Begins With a Simple Premise

A neuroaffirming approach starts from a deceptively radical idea:

Neurodivergent ways of being are valid expressions of human diversity, not deviations that require correction.

This means:

• Communication does not have to look like speech to be meaningful.
• Regulation does not have to look calm to be legitimate.
• Learning does not have to look compliant to be real.
• Autonomy does not have to be earned through performance.

An important distinction here is that one can be meuroaffiing while still lacking the necessary competence (neurodivergence-competence) to work with and support neurodivergent people.

Neuroaffirmation is not about teaching Autistic people how to pass as non-Autistic. It is about reshaping environments, expectations, and relationships so Autistic people can exist as themselves without being punished for it.

ABA does not begin here.

ABA begins with behaviour.

Not meaning. Not experience. Not internal state. Not context.

Behaviour.

The Behaviourist Worldview: Humans as Modifiable Objects

ABA is rooted in behaviourism, a school of psychology that focuses exclusively on observable behaviour and treats internal experiences as either irrelevant or unknowable.

From this perspective:

Behaviour increases after a consequence, via reinforcement.

Behaviour decreases after a consequence, via punishment.

Change the contingencies, and you change the person.

This model works reasonably well for training animals and shaping simple mechanical tasks. It breaks down catastrophically when applied to human beings with complex inner lives, sensory systems, trauma histories, and relational needs.

Autistic people are not empty vessels to be programmed. Yet ABA’s core operating system treats us as if we are. The question is rarely:

Why is this person doing this?

It is almost always:

How do we stop this behaviour or replace it with another one?

When the target is an Autistic child, the behaviours selected for reduction tend to cluster around:

• Stimming
• Atypical movement
• Limited eye contact
• Alternative communication
• Resistance to demands
• Preference for solitude
• Intense focus on specific interests

In other words: Autistic traits. Often one’s that are central to Autistic wellbeing.

ABA may rename them as “maladaptive behaviours”, but the pattern remains the same. Autism itself becomes the unspoken problem.

The Hidden Value Judgment

ABA is often described as “value-neutral”.

It is not.

Every behaviour plan contains an implicit moral ranking. Some behaviours are labelled “appropriate”. Some are labelled “inappropriate”. Some are labelled “functional”. Some are labelled “non-functional”.

Who decides?

Almost always: non-Autistic professionals, guided by neuronormative cultural expectations.

The gold standard is not “does this support the person’s wellbeing?”

It is “does this make the person easier to manage within existing systems?”

Quiet classrooms.

Orderly homes.

Predictable routines.

Socially conventional interaction.

ABA optimises Autistic children for environments that refuse to adapt.

That is not support.

That is assimilation.

Compliance as a Central Outcome

Even when ABA avoids overt punishment, it still typically prioritises:

• Following adult-led instructions
• Tolerating unwanted experiences
• Suppressing visible distress
• Completing tasks on demand

These are framed as “life skills”, but what they primarily cultivate is compliance. Compliance is dangerous. A child who learns that:

• Their “no” is ignored
• Their discomfort is irrelevant
• Their body exists for others’ expectations

is being groomed for vulnerability.

Neuroaffirming practice should aim to build:

• Agency
• Consent literacy
• Self-trust
• Boundary recognition

ABA, by design, trains children to override their own signals. No amount of cheerful tone or colourful toys changes that structural reality.

The Myth of Skill-Building

Proponents often argue:

“ABA teaches important skills.”

The crucial question is:

Skills for what?

Many ABA “skills” involve performing neurotypicality:

• Sitting still
• Making eye contact
• Using spoken language even when AAC would be easier
• Participating in group activities regardless of sensory cost

These are not neutral competencies. They are cultural performances. They teach Autistic people that their natural ways of being are inferior. A truly neuroaffirming approach asks a different set of questions:

• What does this person want to communicate?
• What environments overwhelm their nervous system?
• What supports increase their sense of safety?
• What tools expand their autonomy?

Skill-building, when it exists, is about expanding options; not enforcing conformity.

ABA expands conformity; not options.

Selling Fear to Parents

The ABA industry is enormously profitable. Its marketing relies heavily on fear-based narratives:

• “Your child will never be independent without early intervention.”
• “If you don’t act now, it will be too late.”
• “We can reduce severe autism.”
• “We can make your child indistinguishable from peers.”

These messages exploit a very real vulnerability. Parents are often:

• Newly introduced to disability
• Grieving imagined futures
• Drowning in conflicting information
• Desperate to do “everything possible”

Instead of offering grounded, honest information about neurodivergent development, families are sold a promise:

We can fix this.

But autism is not a disease. It is a neurocognitive style. No amount of behaviour shaping can turn an Autistic brain into a non-Autistic one.

What ABA can do is train a child to hide.

Masking is not healing.

Masking is survival.

Long-term masking is strongly associated with:

• Anxiety
• Depression
• Autistic burnout
• Identity struggles
• Increased suicidality

A therapy that increases masking cannot reasonably be described as supportive.

The Effectiveness Problem

Even setting ethics aside, the evidence base is far weaker than marketing suggests. Many early studies:

• Used small sample sizes
• Lacked control groups
• Relied on subjective outcome measures
• Focused on short-term behaviour change rather than long-term wellbeing

When long-term outcomes are examined, the picture becomes even murkier. Increased IQ scores in childhood do not reliably translate into:

• Improved quality of life
• Greater happiness
• Better mental health
• Stronger relationships

Reducing visible Autistic traits does not equal flourishing.

A person can appear “high functioning” and be deeply suffering. ABA measures success by external appearance.

Neuroaffirming approaches measure success by lived experience.

“But My Child Likes Their Therapist”

This is one of the most common defences. A child liking an adult does not mean the framework is ethical. Children can form attachments in almost any context.

They may enjoy:

• Individual attention
• Play materials
• Predictable routines
• Kind personalities

None of that changes the structural goals of the intervention. You can have a warm, caring person implementing a harmful system.

Intent does not override impact.

Why Reforms Will Never Be Enough

There is a growing movement within ABA to make it “better”:

• Eliminating physical punishment
• Using gentler language
• Incorporating child choice
• Talking about trauma-informed care

These changes may reduce some harms. They do not address the core problem.

The core problem is this:

ABA exists to normalise behaviour.

Neuroaffirmation exists to honour neurodivergent existence.

These aims point in opposite directions. You cannot retrofit liberation into a system designed for compliance.

You cannot decolonise a model that requires conformity to the coloniser’s norms.

What Neuroaffirming Support Actually Looks Like

Neuroaffirming support:

• Assumes competence
• Centres communication access
• Respects stimming and movement
• Prioritises sensory safety
• Builds on interests
• Adapts environments
• Strengthens relationships
• Protects autonomy

It is relational, not mechanical. It is contextual, not prescriptive.

It does not ask:

“How do we make this child act less Autistic?”

It asks:

“How do we make the world safer for this Autistic child?”

The Uncomfortable Truth

ABA persists not because it is uniquely effective. It persists because it reassures a society that fears difference. It reassures schools that they don’t have to change.
It reassures systems that productivity is the highest good.

It reassures parents that deviation can be managed.

Neuroaffirmation offers no such comfort.

It demands growth.

Of environments.
Of expectations.
Of power structures.
Of what we believe a human life is for.

That is harder than buying therapy. That is harder than following protocols. It is also where real support begins.

Closing Thoughts

ABA can never be neuroaffirming because it was never designed to affirm neurodivergent humanity. No amount of cosmetic change can rewrite its DNA.

Autistic people do not need to be trained into worthiness. We do not need to be made acceptable. We do not need to be rendered palatable.

We need safety, access, respect, and environments that meet us halfway. Anything less is not support.

It is control.

Control, no matter how softly spoken, is not care.